In The End It Doesn't Matter

In the end it doesn't matter. 
In the post below I shared "tons," of new family images. Photos from original negatives most if not all never before seen. 
No one said a word. 
How is it possible not one family member seeing these for the first time 70+ years later don't have a reaction? 
Not a call (Call? Who calls anymore?)
Not an email/text.
Not a comment on the blog (but that's expected since few visit here) or on facebook. 
In the end it doesn't matter.
Like life itself it doesn't matter. 
Life? 
You have health problems. Do you think most care. I mean really care? NO.
You pass away. 
People/family mourn for the time of the wake or funeral...if you're lucky.
As services become less traditional with one day funerals less make the effort to attend. 
Life quickly moves on.
In the end I've realized all of this doesn't matter:
If I died today a few might mourn for a few minutes 
But your life like all of the media linked above would eventually fade away.
Life goes on (as it should) but what does not go on is the memory of you. As the years pass you become less visible in the minds of those who knew you.
Eventually all of those who knew you best will also pass away & with them goes what little memory there was left of you & them.  
In the end all of this doesn't matter.
See ya'

New Family Images From Old Negatives

There are a TON of new photos now online.

A culmination of images from different families. Unlike the other images online I did not restore these. They are as the originals look. Most are of good quality.

I did not identify the photos. After naming every person in everyone of the 100's upon 100's of photos online I just couldn't do that all over again.
Some are obvious like this one which KILLS me. Pete Nancy & Alice
(Gotta' love the look on her face):

https://goo.gl/photos/4n7MpDX56BKyzbuRA

There are few blurry images (There's nothing I can do about blurry) This is a double image it is not an error in uploading:
https://goo.gl/photos/aTGr1XzoArubbuYx7

Some I have no clue as to who they are. In this image my mother is the young girl on the ground holding another girl in her arms. The rest are unknown. Although that might be Ann hidden by my mother's arm:
https://goo.gl/photos/ne1oumtRJba68pyp8

These are mostly of Hobby St when the families lived there. Pete, Nancy, kids & Camilli cousins. The Marini's & as for the Cedrones, it's mostly Clara, Ann & my mother with a few of Vi & a young Sonny. There are none of Harry that I recall. There are a few that were taken in Italy like this one of Matty:
https://goo.gl/photos/48QSNx2HaxHbqT5r5

Some images repeat. I believe the repeat starts where you see Ann standing next to a STOP sign.

Camilli Marini Cedrone Album:

https://goo.gl/photos/MkiY6YYSv3f6xMDA6

Enjoy!

Keeping Your Web Page Alive For Future Generations

Years ago you had mostly paper as the only proof your business existed. 
Letterheads, business cards, yellow page/newspaper/magazine ads...
How much of your family's business still exists? 
If you're lucky you have some photos and film or video too.
Besides a few paint brushes, an 8mm film of my father & brothers painting:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=41mWEPbmvko 
& a single sheet of letter head there is nothing left of my father's painting business.
I owned Engagements DJ Entertainment, a very successful full time Rhode Island wedding DJ service for decades.
I have images from many a reception, plus some old magazine ads & my business cards.
Before I deactivated the web site I took screen shots of each page.
Today businesses come n' go as quickly as the speed of the internet itself.
Many businesses have little to nothing after they're gone especially now with so little paper (outside of business cards & even then cards are often tossed or lost as fast as they're given).
There is such an infinite supply of every thing & every business I know I became a memory (at best) the second I retired from the industry. I was forgotten before the web site went down. I was often referred to as Larry from Engagements. Today I'm Larry "WHO?"
That doesn't matter because years from now someone can look at these screen shots & say...
he was Larry...from Engagements






Recent Family History Finds

While I've "retired," from most ancestral research I do occasionally dabble & sometimes get a hit or two. Unfortunately all of the media featured within this blog and the master link:
https://sites.google.com/site/loretosfamily/
just sits here rarely if ever viewed by family.
It has nothing to do with content. There is an abundance of that.
It's a combination of three factors:
1). The "old timers," featured within are gone. In fact most passed away before I began this project 8 years ago. Ah! But what about their families? 
Too many from their kid's generation also passed away or weren't online (as odd as that sounds but there was a time when EVERY ONE wasn't living online). As each generation
passes away it further separates the current generations(s) from those that died. That gap only widens as the living talk less about their ancestors. If your grandparents died before you were born or when you were young your memory or knowledge of them would be limited. You may know of them as your grandparents but not who they were. 
When the very persons featured are no longer living worsened by their families taking less of an interest it leads to...
2). Fewer talking about their heritage. Many families have a wealth of history but few if any go to the "bank," which then leads to...
3).  Knowing only the present. Facebook, texting, twitter, & whatever comes next continues to create a self centered society. LOOK at ME. SEE what I did. READ about ME...
Yeah I know there a great many pluses to all of it but with such a daily addiction (Daily? Try every waking moment) they forget they wouldn't exist without those who came before them.
In the end all of this becomes history. Unfortunately not in the traditional sense. Instead it's similar to when something's worn out, tired holding little to no value. It's "history."

Here are my most recent finds:
Scroll down this link to the right to the headline that reads:
"Two Youth Outrun Police at 85mph Chase
"

Matty Camilli & Sid (Salvatore) Cedrone have the peddle to the metal:
http://fultonhistory.com/Newspaper%2018/Mount%20Vernon%20NY%20Daily%20Argus/Mount%20Vernon%20NY%20Daily%20Argus%201950/Mount%20Vernon%20NY%20Daily%20Argus%201950%20-%202103.pdf

Matty & Sonny are at it again! Each are fined $12.50 for hunting. Scroll down the Hunting/Fishing news column to the bottom of that column:
http://fultonhistory.com/Newspaper%2017/Dobbs%20Ferry%20NY%20%20Register/Dobbs%20Ferry%20NY%20%20Register%201938/Dobbs%20Ferry%20NY%20%20Register%201938%20-%200552.pdf
You may need to increase the size to read it.
Henry Camilli injuries himself with an exploding 

construction cap. Right column titled
"Grand Jury Hears Child Victims Tell of Dynamite Caps":

http://fultonhistory.com/newspaper%2010/Yonkers%20NY%20Herald%20Statesman/Yonkers%20NY%20Herald%20Statesman%201937%20Grayscale/Yonkers%20NY%20Herald%20Statesman%201937%20Grayscale%20-%200235.pdf

Lastly a couple of years ago a film director from South America asked if he could use a clip of my home movie in his movie made up of old films. In return I along with anyone else who said YES were listed in the imdb (film database) as producer: 
 http://www.imdb.com/name/nm5883851/ 


Recently I was asked to provide home movie footage for a Motorcycle Racing Team documentary where the racers in the off hours played cards...

video



The is the NYS Digital Newspaper Home Page:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/

Go to the map & pick the area you want to search. For obvious reasons I picked Westchester.
Search names & to make easier narrow the dates. You don't have to pick exact dates just narrow down the years.

If you come across anything pertaining to any of our families please email the link to me
Here's some of what I found by just "bouncing around:"


My Birth Announcement:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn2001062038/1956-02-16/ed-1/seq-7/#date1=01%2F01%2F1956&index=0&date2=12%2F31%2F1957&words=Americo+Tocci&to_year2=1957&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1956&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=americo+tocci&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

Worlds Fair Tickets (My mother & I went. I never knew they won them or if I did I forgot):
BARGAIN DAYS WINNERS:

http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1964-07-30/ed-1/seq-4/#date1=01%2F01%2F1725&index=2&date2=12%2F31%2F2015&words=Frank+Tocci&to_year2=2015&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1725&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=frank+tocci&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5


Nancy's Obituary:

http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn92061718/1959-03-26/ed-1/seq-18/#date1=01%2F01%2F1725&index=0&date2=12%2F31%2F2015&words=Frank+Tocci&to_year2=2015&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1725&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=frank+tocci&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

Peter's Passing:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1959-09-24/ed-1/seq-13/#date1=01%2F01%2F1958&index=1&date2=12%2F31%2F1960&words=Camilli+Peter&to_year2=1960&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1958&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=peter+camilli&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

My Father & Marie Speak Up About Parking on Hopper St:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1969-05-29/ed-1/seq-4/#date1=01%2F01%2F1725&index=1&date2=12%2F31%2F2015&words=Frank+Tocci&to_year2=2015&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1725&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=frank+tocci&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

Matty's Election:
WOW is this well written:

http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1961-03-16/ed-1/seq-5/#date1=01%2F01%2F1725&index=0&date2=12%2F31%2F2015&words=CAMILLI&to_year2=2015&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1725&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=camilli&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

Matty Wins:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1957-03-21/ed-1/seq-1/#date1=01%2F01%2F1725&index=3&date2=12%2F31%2F2015&words=Camilli&to_year2=2015&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1725&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=camilli&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

Matty's Obituary:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1973-11-29/ed-1/seq-6/#date1=01%2F01%2F1725&index=7&date2=12%2F31%2F2015&words=CAMILLI+Camilli&to_year2=2015&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1725&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=camilli&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

Joyce & Ed's Wedding:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1967-08-12/ed-1/seq-7/#date1=01%2F01%2F1945&index=5&date2=12%2F31%2F1970&words=Marie+Patane&to_year2=1970&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1945&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=Marie+Patane&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

Diane's Part of Vocational Beauty School:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/search/pages/results/?SearchType2=prox5&from_year2=1950&to_year2=1960&county=Westchester&ortext=&andtext=&phrasetext=&proxtext=Diane+Tocci&proxdistance=5&dateFilterType=range&date1=01%2F01%2F1950&date2=12%2F31%2F1960&rows=20&searchType=advanced

Anthony Fricchione Pinewood Derby:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1967-01-26/ed-1/seq-20/#date1=01%2F01%2F1940&index=0&date2=12%2F31%2F1970&words=Fricchione&to_year2=1970&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1940&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=Fricchione&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

Marie playing basketball in 7th grade:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1960-03-31/ed-1/seq-14/#date1=01%2F01%2F1945&index=2&date2=12%2F31%2F1970&words=Marie+Patane&to_year2=1970&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1945&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=Marie+Patane&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

Here's Marie winning a dance contest:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1965-05-06/ed-1/seq-26/#date1=01%2F01%2F1945&index=4&date2=12%2F31%2F1970&words=Marie+Patane&to_year2=1970&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1945&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=Marie+Patane&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5

Harry & Sid listed as general contractors:
http://nyshistoricnewspapers.org/lccn/sn83008557/1961-10-19/ed-1/seq-36/#date1=01%2F01%2F1945&index=1&date2=12%2F31%2F1970&words=Cedrone&to_year2=1970&searchType=advanced&sequence=0&from_year2=1945&proxdistance=5&page=1&county=Westchester&rows=20&ortext=&proxtext=cedrone&phrasetext=&andtext=&dateFilterType=range&SearchType2=prox5
 
A few of my high school football clippings:

Viet Nam in HD Our Family Home Movies Update

Three years ago I was approached by Documentary film maker Lou Reda for his Vietnam in HD History Channel series. 
They were interested in using clips of our family home movies in the documentary which aired 2011.

If you never saw the series it's quite impressive. It's available on Netflix & here on youtube:

https://www.google.com/#q=VIETNAM+IN+HD&tbm=vid

Our footage is shown within the first few minutes. The clip of Diane & George's wedding was used in all of their commercials including at least one commercial of Diane in her pink party dress.
Their wedding moment was also the lead in for the series. As they show them they overlap the video with the caption OVER TEN YEARS which is the lead in for the series. That same clip is shown in all the parts of the mini series.

This video shows the clips used:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kwk5K3byk0w

Because I contributed footage I was listed in the credits but since some were licensed though my legal name Loreto & others by Larry I received twice the billing. When I asked why, they said they weren't sure if Larry & Loreto were the same people. My wife says the same thing!

These are the approx times each clip is seen in the first video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9jpgLRuf3o
 & it's only in the first video that they are all used. Only Diane & George appear in the beginning of each video:

1:09 Anthony doing the twist. My back is to him.
1:28 Diane & George (Antionette is also briefly seen) with the caption...OVER TEN YEARS
4:02 My father & me.( I'm 1. He's 45!)
5:25: Diane (before George) Christmas-time dance with date.
This clip is immediately followed by Cousin Vilma & my brother Doug & wife Noreen.

Today while searching family history, without searching for this specifically out of nowhere came Noreen's 1965 obituary:

http://fultonhistory.com/Newspaper%2017/Dobbs%20Ferry%20NY%20Sentinel/Dobbs%20Ferry%20NY%20Sentinel%201965%20Jul-Dec%201966/Dobbs%20Ferry%20NY%20Sentinel%201965%20Jul-Dec%201966%20-%200202.pdf 

Recently I was asked to provide home movie footage for a Motorcycle Racing Team documentary where the racers in the off hours played cards...

video

TRADITION

Every family has a "tradition." It can be anything from food (the most common) to seasonal/holiday to something you or someone "always," does.
In our family & probably like yours 
TRADITION = FOOD & FOOD = TRADITION!
In an Italian house that means a BIG Italian dinner
Call it what you will, spaghetti, pasta, or by its style or shape, lasagne, ravioli....it was accompanied by a hearty helping of meatballs, sausage, braciole... & a tossed salad with oil & vinegar.
Of course there is wine often in green tinted bottles.
Save room for coffee & cake too! 
(But that's for later. Like 20 minutes later after you eat)
Hey! But Wadda' 'bout da' chicken?
I don't what Paisan of mine created the Italian Sunday dinner but besides the 800lbs of pasta & enough beef & pork to feed a small village plus that huge bowl of salad &
hard crusty Italian bread which is great for making 
"Sangwedges,"
but someone thought they needed one more entree. 
I KNOW why not serve roasted chicken. WHY NOT?
What better?
The cow, the pig, and the chicken. All the farm animals on one plate. MANGIA!
Thank God there were no lambs.
UNTIL EASTER!
Today keeping traditions alive seems harder to do. Sadly, many are lost with families at best only remembering or "knowing of," past traditions with little effort if any to renew them. 
Families don't get together as they once did. When the person passes away who the tradition centered or evolved around so often do the traditions themselves.
Every time I take a bite of Italian food I  see the faces & hear the voices of those who shared the table with me.
Whatever your tradition is do what you can to keep it from fading away.
ABUNDANZA:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKsPUr0SVJo

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There is so much content embedded in this blog especially the slide shows to your right & the media embedded with the posts below it could take up to 30 seconds to load it depending on your computer/speed.
Sometimes hitting refresh or scrolling up n' down a few times helps the content to load.
If you're looking at this on your mobile device some content specifically embedded slide shows
or videos may not be viewable.
I have been trying to solve this issue.
The blog is visually amazing when viewed on a lap or desktop. Click through the various posts
available as you continue to scroll below or in the
monthly archives in the right column.
After more than 7 years I rarely blog here
except to update posts however
EVERYTHING that can or cannot be seen are available here: 
https://sites.google.com/site/loretosfamily/

The Last One Left


At some point you or a sibling will be
"The last one left." 
You or they will be the only survivor of 
your immediate family.

There are 6 in my family. Parents & 4 kids. 
You could have 18 in your family. 
Eventually someone will outlive all the others.
It's (almost) a given parents will die before their children. 
In my family it was assumed I would most likely outlive the rest because of the age difference.

My parents were born in 1912 & 1915. 
My brothers Doug & Donald were born in the early '30s 
with my sister Diane in '40.  I came along in '56. 
By the time I was a year old my parents 
were now in their 40s. 
My brothers in their 20s with my sister near 17.

As "the baby," of the family you'd expect me to be around the longest. What you don't realize is it can happen quickly. 

Our mother died young at only 73 in 1988. 
Our father living the longest "thus far," died at 88 in 2000. 
Six years after he died my sister 
 diagnosed with Cancer died at 67 in 2008. 
By 2010 her husband George at 73 passed away. 
My oldest brother Doug was suffering from acute emphysema. 
He died at 78 just 2 months after George. 
(His wife Gloria predeceased him at 74 in 2006. His first wife Noreen died young at only 30 in 1965).

The immediate family quickly dropped from 6 to 2
including spouses we were 4. 
My brother Donald & his wife Barbara.
My wife Mary & myself.

Donald successfully fought prostate cancer 
many years earlier. He was in the clear after 16 years. 
However by 2012 cancer returned to other areas 
complicated by a host of additional health problems.
He died at 79 in 2014.

Excluding his wife & mine that left me 
as the last one in our immediate family. 
It is an odd experience when you are the last one. 
You are the only link to your family. 
Your family's legacy is left for you to carry. 

When you're the last one you cannot explain 
the vacancy or void. 
When you're the last one 
you'll understand what I'm talking about. 
If you are you already know...

At times being the last one 
isn't always easy.
  


Donald Tocci Memorial Video

The End of An Era



Pictured at the top of the photo are Loreto & Maria Cedrone with their seven children. 

A poor blue collar Italian immigrant  family, who like many came off the boat (Loreto, Maria & oldest daughter Annunziata aka Nancy seated to your right, came from the "old country,") to make a better life for themselves.

Clara (in wedding dress), was the last of the Cedrone siblings to pass away. Clara died this afternoon three months shy of her 96th birthday. 
 Her passing also brings to an end many family traditions. 
That generation stood for family. Family values. Family was everything. The good. The bad. The happy. The sad. All of it evolved around family and being Italian...FOOD!

On any given Sunday Clara pictured below was in the kitchen like her mother & sisters before her filled with family & food.  
 








Notice the small photo pulled from a 1960s 8mm movie. I swear it's the same pot she was using some 40 years later.

The links to the videos below will more than wet your appetite.
Beyond tables filled with food, the home was filled with laughter.
Laughing!

Everyone talking if not YELLING all at the same time. Often times they were the same old stories you heard 100 times before but enjoyed hearing once again. Clara loved to cook & we loved eating what she made. Pasta to cookies, string beans to salad,  chicken to rabe'. You couldn't have enough of it & if you were lucky (as I was) you didn't leave without leftovers. 
Clara's Sunday Leftovers 1080p (p for Pasta)

But you also left with memories. Memories of a family that started from nothing. That endured hard ships. A family that stood tall. Proud of who they were & what they became.






The first photo at the top of this post does not exist. There are no photos of the family together. The image was created from several photos to create a family group shot. Today they are once again reunited.

My mother died in 1988 when I was 32. 




Today, November 24th 2013 I am 57. Clara having two daughters often referred to me as the son she never had.You don't often get a chance at a second mother. She was much like one to me & a grandmother to our kids who never really had an (Italian) grandma. 

The memorial video linked below has about 30 seconds of dark screen. There is a dialogue box detailing how she & Dan met.
However, some devices/browsers don't see the dialogue. If you don't, just cue past that to about 7:00.

  
She & Dan also became our youngest child's Godparents seen here the day of his baptism:
Dan Marini
Clara often said she was too old. She said she'd never see him graduate high school. But she did. 

It was this time of year, Thanksgiving 2009 where she & Dan (who passed away 3 years prior) were featured in the local paper after I discovered Dan's local Quincy Christmas Parade footage:
http://marinisofquincy.blogspot.com/2009/11/parade-memories.html

I had 32 years with my mother with almost as many with Aunt Clara who was as close to a second mother as you could be lucky to have. She, my mother & the rest are now reunited. 



 Something tells me there's plenty of sauce on the stove, more meatballs than you can count, with endless bowls of spaghetti. That would truly be heaven.
Clara The Movie 1080p
Clara Marini's Fresh Gnocchi's!
Clara's Sunday Leftovers 1080p (p for Pasta)
Italian Sunday Dinner 1080p (Pasta Vision)
Italian Sunday Dinner HD
Italiano!
Food, Wine, Song. Italian!
Italian Christmas
Italians!
Abudanza Marini Style, 8mm Home Movie
Aunt Clara's
Clara Marini Making Pasta at 93
Clara Marini 8mm Pasta
Clara Marini Cooking Pasta 8/23/09
Clara Marini's Macaroni

Claras stories...live on:
Clara Meets Dan 1080p (Paisan Vision)
Clara's Punch 1080p (Punch Vision)
Aunt Millies 1080p (Pasta Vision)
Dan Burns His Backside (HD)
Clara's Horse Story

I found just weeks after Clara died an early/mid 1980's audio cassette. No one knew they existed. They were never heard by anyone. We assume Clara may have listened to them, but they could've been recorded then stored away & forgotten.
I wish I'd found them before she passed away.
 Enjoy:
Thanksgiving. Listen to all the food coming out of the kitchen & that's just the "little something," to hold you over:
https://app.box.com/s/tuvny9ka2l0etcxxq2gx 
Dan singing the songs he sang to Clara when they were courting:
https://app.box.com/s/ma83g22uub0f9tys8769