Donald Tocci Memorial Video

The End of An Era



Pictured at the top of the photo are Loreto & Maria Cedrone with their seven children. 

A poor blue collar Italian immigrant  family, who like many came off the boat (Loreto, Maria & oldest daughter Annunziata aka Nancy seated to your right, came from the "old country,") to make a better life for themselves.

Clara (in wedding dress), was the last of the Cedrone siblings to pass away. Clara died this afternoon three months shy of her 96th birthday. 
 Her passing also brings to an end many family traditions. 
That generation stood for family. Family values. Family was everything. The good. The bad. The happy. The sad. All of it evolved around family and being Italian...FOOD!

On any given Sunday Clara pictured below was in the kitchen like her mother & sisters before her filled with family & food.  
 








Notice the small photo pulled from a 1960s 8mm movie. I swear it's the same pot she was using some 40 years later.

The links to the videos below will more than wet your appetite.
Beyond tables filled with food, the home was filled with laughter.
Laughing!

Everyone talking if not YELLING all at the same time. Often times they were the same old stories you heard 100 times before but enjoyed hearing once again. Clara loved to cook & we loved eating what she made. Pasta to cookies, string beans to salad,  chicken to rabe'. You couldn't have enough of it & if you were lucky (as I was) you didn't leave without leftovers. 
Clara's Sunday Leftovers 1080p (p for Pasta)

But you also left with memories. Memories of a family that started from nothing. That endured hard ships. A family that stood tall. Proud of who they were & what they became.




The first photo at the top of this post does not exist. There are no photos of the family together. The image was created from several photos to create a family group shot. Today they are once again reunited.

My mother died in 1988 when I was 32. 



Today, November 24th 2013 I am 57. Clara having two daughters often referred to me as the son she never had.You don't often get a chance at a second mother. She was much like one to me & a grandmother to our kids who never really had an (Italian) grandma. 

The memorial video linked below has about 30 seconds of dark screen. There is a dialogue box detailing how she & Dan met.
However, some devices/browsers don't see the dialogue. If you don't, just cue past that to about 7:00.

  
She & Dan also became our youngest child's Godparents seen here the day of his baptism:
Dan Marini
Clara often said she was too old. She said she'd never see him graduate high school. But she did. 

It was this time of year, Thanksgiving 2009 where she & Dan (who passed away 3 years prior) were featured in the local paper after I discovered Dan's local Quincy Christmas Parade footage:
http://marinisofquincy.blogspot.com/2009/11/parade-memories.html

I had 32 years with my mother with almost as many with Aunt Clara who was as close to a second mother as you could be lucky to have. She, my mother & the rest are now reunited. 


 Something tells me there's plenty of sauce on the stove, more meatballs than you can count, with endless bowls of spaghetti. That would truly be heaven.
Clara The Movie 1080p
Clara Marini's Fresh Gnocchi's!
Clara's Sunday Leftovers 1080p (p for Pasta)
Italian Sunday Dinner 1080p (Pasta Vision)
Italian Sunday Dinner HD
Italiano!
Food, Wine, Song. Italian!
Italian Christmas
Italians!
Abudanza Marini Style, 8mm Home Movie
Aunt Clara's
Clara Marini Making Pasta at 93
Clara Marini 8mm Pasta
Clara Marini Cooking Pasta 8/23/09
Clara Marini's Macaroni

Claras stories...live on:
Clara Meets Dan 1080p (Paisan Vision)
Clara's Punch 1080p (Punch Vision)
Aunt Millies 1080p (Pasta Vision)
Dan Burns His Backside (HD)
Clara's Horse Story

I found just weeks after Clara died an early/mid 1980's audio cassette. No one knew they existed. They were never heard by anyone. We assume Clara may have listened to them, but they could've been recorded then stored away & forgotten.
I wish I'd found them before she passed away.
 Enjoy:
Thanksgiving. Listen to all the food coming out of the kitchen & that's just the "little something," to hold you over:
https://app.box.com/s/tuvny9ka2l0etcxxq2gx 
Dan singing the songs he sang to Clara when they were courting:
https://app.box.com/s/ma83g22uub0f9tys8769 
 

How To Use Or Read This Blog

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You can also view older posts by scrolling all the way down the right side to the Blog Archives. Click a month & then any of the posts within that month. 

The slideshows to your right direct you to the web sites where all the photos & mp3's are available to download for FREE.

This one page contains everything:
https://sites.google.com/site/loretosfamily/

For many today, family is only family by name. First cousins don't know one another. Aunts & Uncles are strangers. No one talks anymore. Sorry, posting is not the same as talking & it can not compare to visiting with family.

The further we get away from being with family the more distant we become & the less family becomes "family."
This may or may not be true for you, but it is becoming the norm for most. 

We live in a bubble, wrapped up in our own lives. Everyone's too busy. REALLY? Your grandmother who raised 8 kids, cooked from scratch, cleaned by hand, and probably drove hours one way to see family somehow wasn't too busy.

You're not too busy to talk or visit. It's just a convenient excuse for most to be busy.
 Someday this bubble will burst. How refreshing that will be.


The Real Charlie Browniest!

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Was I the inspiration for Charlie Brown's Christmas? How similar good ol' Charlie Brown & I look.
Video 1:
Tell me those aren't the very words that I'm speaking in the (silent) 8mm movie clip.
Video 2:
Same Hat. Same Coat! 
Video 3:
Without question my wife (her mittens whipping around) was the inspiration for the skating scene when they fly into one another...

Happy 90th Birthday Christine (Cedrone) Gentile

Christine (Cedrone) Gentile celebrated her young 90th birthday this weekend. I was thrilled to be invited (along with my wife Mary, Aunt Clara & her daughter Linda). We met so many relatives I'd only heard about and many I never knew.

Christine's father was my grandfather's brother, making her my mother's first cousin. To add more confusion to the family mix, her (late) husband, "Chubby," was my father's first cousin.Chubby's father & my grandmother (my father's mother) were siblings.
Christine Gentile's 90th:
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Christine Gentile 90th Birthday HD
Watch the 90 second movie:
Christine Gentile Birthday "Movie," 1080p You can also watch or download the full 10:00 video from the Internet Archive:
http://archive.org/details/ChristineGentile
To download it to your PC/Mac or Mobile Device. Right click or save this link to your hard drive:
QuickTime
 
If anyone has problems downloading it let me know at yourbestdj@aol.com
Here are our two oldest relatives. Cousins Clara (Cedrone) Marini 95 & Christine (Cedrone) Gentile 90:
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Clara & Chris 90th Birthday Party HD

Mangia!


The same pot! Insert, 8mm still from a 1960's home movie. Larger image is a screen shot from 2009 camcorder video. It's the same pot. It's truly the (golden) fountain of youth.

Color Corrected Pasta? WATCH:
2010: With new High Def camera's here is Clara making pasta in HD. Or is that HP? Hot Pasta:
Clara Marini Pasta


2009 Videos:

Both are featured below & linked here. These were recorded August 23, 2009. Part two shows Clara in 1959 making home made pasta, & we see her 50 years later still making Sunday dinner:
Clara Marini Cooking Pasta 8/23/09
Clara Marini Pasta Part Two

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This 8mm was film by Ed Mahoney Looks like
Homemade Gnocchi's are on the menu:

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Clara Marini's Fresh Gnocchi's!
8MM & TODAY! Picture in Picture, or is that Pasta in Pasta?!:
Aunt Clara's Pasta
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Here's the alternate version:Clara's Pot of Pasta


What's new is old. 2011 HD video converted to 8mm!

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Enjoy a meatball 'sangwedge:"
LIVE! At Aunt Clara's

Clara will tell you it is HER sauce which was Aunt Millie's (now discontinued). The woman behind Aunt Millie's knew Clara. She tasted Clara's, loved it, then made it slightly different calling it her own!

Recorded June 11th 2011:

Recorded Holidays 2011. Clara's Stories:

Clara once rented the 2nd floor apt of a Hawthorne (NY) home when she & Dan married.
The landlady's daughter in law asked what Clara was cooking....
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Aunt Clara Aunt Millie
Typical Sunday Dinner:

Clara's Sunday Leftovers 1080p (p for Pasta)
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Take a bite out these videos. Clara talks about how Aunt Millie's became a popular spaghetti sauce & then dig in to Sunday dinner.

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Everyone's Pregnant!

When Janet Marini was born my mother sent two cards. One written by her for her parents.
(Click on the images to enlarge them or go to the link at the bottom to view/download them):



The other telling of the women in the family who were also expecting. Their sister Ann would soon give birth to Marie. Niece Fran Camilli to Joyce, & sister in law Edna Cedrone was four months pregnant. Edna? Pregnant?



If you can't read it download the full size image. She says, Edna thought she was "change of life," so she went to Dr. Rogan & he told her she is 4 months pregnant. Harry is so happy. He doesn't make her do anything.

Harry & Edna were unable to have children. Harry was the only Cedrone sibling without children & as you can see in the note, he was so very happy. That child would've been a first cousin & most likely their only child. Edna must've soon miscarried. I never heard my parents or of anyone talking about this. Anyone who knew of, or remembered her pregnancy has since passed away.

They adopted one child, Helen, some twenty years later & because of their age had to fight the system to do so. The courts assumed based on their age they wouldn't be able to raise a child properly or would pass away before being able to do so. Helen was about 13 when Harry died. Edna passed away two years later. Afterward Helen moved in with cousin's Vilma (Tougas) & Virgie (Cantor).

Another piece of unknown family history found...on the back of a greeting card.
https://picasaweb.google.com/102260807874318515063/CedroneDocuments#5762020610568682050
On a lighter note, Clara wrote on the inside of the card what she received:

My parents sent a dress. My Grandparents a dress, blanket & $5.00!





Doug Lives On In Google Street View

Although he his blurred, due to Goggle's privacy software which blurs faces/license plates, Doug lives on in Google's street view. Click on the red "A" once you open this link. Below that is Aunt Clara's House:
http://maps.google.com/maps?oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&channel=np&q=438+rt+376+hopewell+junction,+ny&um=1&ie=UTF-8&hq=&hnear=0x89dd47baeb296f6b:0x67195f35c9b4ea84,438+New+York+376,+Hopewell+Junction,+NY+12533&gl=us&ei=iJaWT7f0Fabc2AXf0OzsDQ&sa=X&oi=geocode_result&ct=title&resnum=1&ved=0CCEQ8gEwAA
Clara & Dan's House:
http://maps.google.com/maps?oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&channel=np&q=56+loring+street,+quincy+ma&um=1&ie=UTF-8&hq=&hnear=0x89e37ce76c6777e5:0x21685b901fa1837d,56+Loring+St,+Quincy,+MA+02169&gl=us&ei=UZeWT9HqCMmL2AWSnoCNDg&sa=X&oi=geocode_result&ct=title&resnum=1&ved=0CCQQ8gEwAA

Your Last Post (For Now)

The blog, photos & videos were created for the families of
the Cedrone - Tocci family (& all those married into the family), of Pleasantville NY including selected footage, photos & documents of & provided by the Marini's of Quincy Ma.
It was produced so we could remember the many who have passed away, but to also remain connected as family. Everything featured here which includes every link to all of our online media is provided to every family member for whom I have an email address.

In the end your life does not evolve around how many facebook friends you have, or that someone
" liked,"your post, or tweet. In the end there is only family.


When this post was first written August 2010 with a quick video produced in December (below),
the # of hours invested was about 2000-2500. Updated April. 2012 the hours of the last 4 years were re-calculated adding to that the hours currently spent. While it may be hard to believe the time invested is now approaching 4000 hours.
This doesn't account for the additional time archiving all the data. This was a daily project over four years.

Click the link below which takes you to the one page which links everything.
The volume of online content is staggering. Overwhelming.
The content as of today is just over 4000 photos, almost 200 documents,
approximately
1600 videos for an estimated total of over 5500 forms of media
showcased over 10 blogs, 3 youtube pages, with additional video & photo links.
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Your LAST Video
Unless new, possibly rare images, 8mm film or vhs videos are uncovered I've done all I can with restoration, video production & documentation.
This one link will take you to EVERY THING
online:
This link is also featured within the link above but to access ALL videos quickly & easily click here:
http://www.youtube.com/user/8mmhomemoviechannel

Lastly get creative when restoring your past. Objects should be digitally preserved too. These are my " bronzed," shoes. Bronzing was a fad where infants shoes were preserved in bronze, mounted or glued to a plaque or as bookends. They were a novelty keepsake of your first pair of shoes .

My father most likely "bronzed," these. The shoes are glued to the base. Don't know what adhesive he used but they're still on there decades later. The base is ceramic. It looks like a napkin or letter holder which he then sprayed " bronze."
ed the shoes "bronze."

Cedrone - Tocci 8mm Home Movie

My parents 8mm home movies spanning nearly 20 years from the mid 1950's to early 1970's in (very close) chronological order:

Got An Old Phone Book? Use It!

Few of us own phone books today. Who needs'em with the internet. But if you have one or have access to them online through sites like Ancestry.com you'll be surprised at what you only thought you knew.

Sure you know where your grandparents lived or your cousin but do you know what their occupations were, if they were married or attending college.

For many years phone books provided a wealth of information.
They did this to better assist you with finding the correct persons. If your were looking for a friend or relative with a very common but you knew he was photographer, you'd be better able to find him by not only his name but by his trade.


Look at the journey of Paul & Vi Arpie & their kids stretching from the 1930's to 1980's. Multiple addresses & just about as many careers.
See their travels (mostly) through Ct at the bottom of the album:
https://picasaweb.google.com/102260807874318515063/CedroneDocuments

1957 Mickey Mantle's In Town

May 1957 & Mickey's in town to take a few swings!
Within the first 30 seconds, the audio slows way down for about 10 seconds as Mickey makes his way around home plate in his car: His car? WATCH:

A Dollar's Worth

The caption within the photo tells the story! Click on the photo:
This 1959 "hand made time card," was found in a cabinet in Clara & Dan's garage in 2012. Some 53 years later!

Vintage Audio Downloads

Listen here, or download the clips. Vintage audio from the 70's & 80's.
The download link is below each player. There are a few more down the right column labeled Vintage Audio & linked here:

https://www.box.com/files/0/f/17629136/Loreto
 

One of the funniest radio interviews I ever had. The interview quickly begins to go down hill within 90 seconds: John LaCorte:

http://www.divshare.com/download/16859290-2b1

Mary's Uncle Franny sang this at our wedding. The Larry & Mary Song:

http://www.divshare.com/download/16859280-7ac

Mary dropped an apple in her car. My mother couldn' stop laughing.
Mary's Apple:


http://www.divshare.com/download/16859277-19b

My mother laughs at my father's antics during the 1970's gas crunch:

http://www.divshare.com/download/16859240-ef8

My Mother used to tell everyone Frank Sinatra was her cousin:

http://www.divshare.com/download/16859235-c43

My Mother Laughing:

http://www.divshare.com/download/16859214-48c

The greatest 2 second clip of all time. My mother:

http://www.divshare.com/download/16862126-177

1973. My Mother literally jumps over a chair during a thunderstorm & Harry plays the mandolin. Each is found at the bottom of these two posts.
1973 Audio:
http://tocci.blogspot.com/2008/09/crabbing-at-uncle-harrys.html
http://tocci.blogspot.com/2010/08/vintage-audio-video.html
Audio from Marie's 1969 wedding shower is found near the top in this post:
http://tocci.blogspot.com/2008/09/blizzard-of-69-wedding-videos.html

World War ll Claims a Cedrone, a Tocci & a Parent

I will break this down so it's easy to follow.
WWll claims a Cedrone & a Tocci & then a parent.

The Cedrone Death: Pompeii Leone was Loreto Cedrone's nephew. It was his sister's son. Killed in action:


The Tocci Death:

John Lawrence Gentile was Grace (Gentile) Tocci's nephew. Grace was married to my grandfather Carmine Tocci. Her brother was Loreto Gentile. John Lawrence dies in a secret mission & most likely did not know he was part of it:

http://www.accessgenealogy.com/navy/massachusetts/g.htm
John Lawrence was on board the SS. Harvey in 1943 when he too was killed in action.
The SS Harvey was in Bari, Italy with a cargo only a select few knew about. Disguised were 500 tons of mustard gas bombs.
The bombs were meant only as a precaution to be used if the Germans resorted to chemical warfare.
The Commander wanted to unload the bombs quickly but since only he & a few others knew they existed he didn't want to draw attention to the cargo, so they sat in the harbor for 5 days.

The German air force found & attacked all the ships in the harbor unaware of the SS Harvey's cargo. Once hit, the ship exploded disappearing instantly in a huge mushroom-shaped fireball:
Bari Italy was under the jurisdiction of British law. Churchill destroyed all evidence of mustard gas deaths & instead listed them as,
" burns due to enemy action." Churchill's secrecy caused more deaths as victims especially Italian civilians died from lack of proper treatment.
Watch the video here:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NonWxm4aYHc
Loreto Gentile:
In February 1944 following the death of his son, Loreto Gentile , distraught while installing a gutter on a home, slipped, falling & hitting a fence killing him instantly. 
Below is a photo of John Lawrence Gentile, a newspaper clipping which details the story of his brother Pompeo (Chubby) Gentile who held off the Nazis for over an hour earning him a Bronze Star & the death of Pompeii Leone who died the same day his childhood friend Jerry Leone (no relation) stationed elsewhere was injured. Pompeii was killed in action trying to save soldiers in his platoon wounded under heavy fire:


Links are here:
Pompeo Gentile:
John Lawrence Gentile:
Pompeii Leone